I finally made the call to the state adoptions office yesterday, and requested an information packet. I’ve been putting it off for a while now – the whole homestudy process scares me a little. Getting licensed as foster parents was the easy part. Getting approved for adoption? Not so much.
I have depression. Chronic depression. It’s something I’ve dealt with for over ten years now. It kind of comes and goes – I’m mildly depressed for a while, and then it becomes worse for a short period of time, and then I go back to mild. I’m getting treatment for it, and I’m pretty good at managing the symptoms so they don’t disrupt my daily life too much. Or at least I was until infertility came along. Infertility and depression seem to have been working hand-in-hand to try to disable me. And there have been times when they have been successful in the last couple years. Since we got licensed for foster care, things have been a little better. I haven’t been so easy to knock down.
But I worry about how the person doing our homestudy will see at it. I worry that I’m going to be judged (by everyone) for trying to adopt a baby when I’m struggling with depression. I know that having a “psychiatric condition” (as it says on the preliminary application form) doesn’t mean I can’t adopt. But I still worry.
What if they decide I’m not good enough?