Comments for Back into the fire http://kittyquilt.wordpress.com Fri, 28 Aug 2009 20:07:01 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on Baby showers by Beautiful Mess http://kittyquilt.wordpress.com/2009/08/22/baby-showers/#comment-275 Beautiful Mess Fri, 28 Aug 2009 20:07:01 +0000 http://kittyquilt.wordpress.com/?p=86#comment-275 HAPPY ICLW! How about instead of a "baby shower" your friends throw you a "welcome to our life" party? After the child is placed with you is a good idea, too. that way you'll know the age and what you may need or may not need. The child can be introduced to all your friends and family and it can be all about the child. It'll be more of a celebration, rather then anything else. I hope you can find something that makes you happy. Sending you lots of love and peace while you travel this road. *HUGS* HAPPY ICLW!

How about instead of a “baby shower” your friends throw you a “welcome to our life” party? After the child is placed with you is a good idea, too. that way you’ll know the age and what you may need or may not need. The child can be introduced to all your friends and family and it can be all about the child. It’ll be more of a celebration, rather then anything else.

I hope you can find something that makes you happy. Sending you lots of love and peace while you travel this road.
*HUGS*

]]> Comment on Baby showers by Annissa http://kittyquilt.wordpress.com/2009/08/22/baby-showers/#comment-274 Annissa Fri, 28 Aug 2009 17:10:37 +0000 http://kittyquilt.wordpress.com/?p=86#comment-274 I can understand and sympathize with the situation - however, look at it this way. Baby Showers aren't about the pregnant woman, but the child. Baby Showers are to celebrate that life is coming into YOUR life and to help give something to that child, or in your case children, as I am sure through the years to come, you'll have more then one. Maybe you could consider it if it's not called a "baby shower" but a "Foster Party" ... ask people to bring in used or new, or clothes they want to donate for all ages and genders. Toys... furniture that they highly suggest for a wide variety of ages that can be easily stored if not in use. By calling it a "Foster Party" there is no confusion in what is going on, even for the ones who don't know... and still a celebration in what you are doing, which is one of the hardest but most rewarding things! Happy ICLW :) I can understand and sympathize with the situation – however, look at it this way. Baby Showers aren’t about the pregnant woman, but the child. Baby Showers are to celebrate that life is coming into YOUR life and to help give something to that child, or in your case children, as I am sure through the years to come, you’ll have more then one. Maybe you could consider it if it’s not called a “baby shower” but a “Foster Party” … ask people to bring in used or new, or clothes they want to donate for all ages and genders. Toys… furniture that they highly suggest for a wide variety of ages that can be easily stored if not in use. By calling it a “Foster Party” there is no confusion in what is going on, even for the ones who don’t know… and still a celebration in what you are doing, which is one of the hardest but most rewarding things!

Happy ICLW :)

]]> Comment on Baby showers by Jen http://kittyquilt.wordpress.com/2009/08/22/baby-showers/#comment-273 Jen Fri, 28 Aug 2009 11:36:52 +0000 http://kittyquilt.wordpress.com/?p=86#comment-273 Sorry that you are in this situation. I don't think that I could muster up the strength for a baby shower in that situation. I like your idea of waiting until a little one is placed with you. However, I do think that you DESERVE the baby shower and YOU should also be the center of attention. You are doing a wonderful, wonderful thing...and such an amazing thing considering all you have gone through with IF. Wishing you all the best. ICLW Sorry that you are in this situation. I don’t think that I could muster up the strength for a baby shower in that situation. I like your idea of waiting until a little one is placed with you. However, I do think that you DESERVE the baby shower and YOU should also be the center of attention. You are doing a wonderful, wonderful thing…and such an amazing thing considering all you have gone through with IF.

Wishing you all the best.

ICLW

]]> Comment on Baby showers by Kim http://kittyquilt.wordpress.com/2009/08/22/baby-showers/#comment-272 Kim Thu, 27 Aug 2009 17:19:27 +0000 http://kittyquilt.wordpress.com/?p=86#comment-272 Do you have to call it a baby shower? Maybe as more things fall into place surrounding the fostering, you'll feel differently and more in the mood to celebrate. We're our own worst critics. Go easy, if you can. XO Do you have to call it a baby shower? Maybe as more things fall into place surrounding the fostering, you’ll feel differently and more in the mood to celebrate.

We’re our own worst critics. Go easy, if you can. XO

]]> Comment on Baby showers by Ruth Snyder http://kittyquilt.wordpress.com/2009/08/22/baby-showers/#comment-271 Ruth Snyder Thu, 27 Aug 2009 03:13:51 +0000 http://kittyquilt.wordpress.com/?p=86#comment-271 I went through infertility, have adopted, and am currently fostering as well. You need to do what you are comfortable with. Having a baby shower will make things quite public, and if you're not prepared to deal with that, don't go there. I would personally suggest waiting until you are able to (hopefully) adopt someday. I went through infertility, have adopted, and am currently fostering as well. You need to do what you are comfortable with. Having a baby shower will make things quite public, and if you’re not prepared to deal with that, don’t go there. I would personally suggest waiting until you are able to (hopefully) adopt someday.

]]> Comment on Baby showers by Baby shower pro http://kittyquilt.wordpress.com/2009/08/22/baby-showers/#comment-270 Baby shower pro Wed, 26 Aug 2009 23:47:37 +0000 http://kittyquilt.wordpress.com/?p=86#comment-270 I think it's perfectly okay to have a baby shower in your situation. But, I can also see why you are apprehensive about it. I would suggest that you just go with your gut feeling, and do what makes your most comfortable. I think it’s perfectly okay to have a baby shower in your situation. But, I can also see why you are apprehensive about it. I would suggest that you just go with your gut feeling, and do what makes your most comfortable.

]]> Comment on Baby showers by Lisa RM http://kittyquilt.wordpress.com/2009/08/22/baby-showers/#comment-269 Lisa RM Wed, 26 Aug 2009 01:40:22 +0000 http://kittyquilt.wordpress.com/?p=86#comment-269 Waiting sounds like a good idea. Doesn't it suck how we can have one standard for ourselves and a different for others, especially when it just hurts us? Waiting sounds like a good idea. Doesn’t it suck how we can have one standard for ourselves and a different for others, especially when it just hurts us?

]]> Comment on Baby showers by ^WiseGuy^ http://kittyquilt.wordpress.com/2009/08/22/baby-showers/#comment-268 ^WiseGuy^ Tue, 25 Aug 2009 14:07:07 +0000 http://kittyquilt.wordpress.com/?p=86#comment-268 You are a wise one. Your answer is right at the end. Obviously you understand your own position and its dynamics the best...but wait till the child is places with you and THEN you would EXACTLY know what you need. Am so sorry that there are such hard decisions your way. ICLW You are a wise one.

Your answer is right at the end.

Obviously you understand your own position and its dynamics the best…but wait till the child is places with you and THEN you would EXACTLY know what you need.

Am so sorry that there are such hard decisions your way.

ICLW

]]> Comment on Baby showers by kathi http://kittyquilt.wordpress.com/2009/08/22/baby-showers/#comment-267 kathi Tue, 25 Aug 2009 03:31:58 +0000 http://kittyquilt.wordpress.com/?p=86#comment-267 Oh, but you are doing something and something hugely important. You will be helping to make a better life for a young one that needs you. You deserve everything and then some for that. :: ICLW :: Oh, but you are doing something and something hugely important. You will be helping to make a better life for a young one that needs you. You deserve everything and then some for that.

:: ICLW ::

]]> Comment on Baby showers by Donna http://kittyquilt.wordpress.com/2009/08/22/baby-showers/#comment-266 Donna Tue, 25 Aug 2009 02:27:51 +0000 http://kittyquilt.wordpress.com/?p=86#comment-266 I do not see any reason why you should not have a baby shower. You are welcoming a child into your life. Isn't that the true reason for someone to have a baby shower in the first place? I can understand that you do not want everyone knowing your "business". However, I would think differently and feel proud. When you chose to have one is up to you. It can work either way. Always thinking of you :::hugs:::: I do not see any reason why you should not have a baby shower. You are welcoming a child into your life. Isn’t that the true reason for someone to have a baby shower in the first place?

I can understand that you do not want everyone knowing your “business”. However, I would think differently and feel proud.

When you chose to have one is up to you. It can work either way.

Always thinking of you :::hugs::::

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